One of my closet friends had been bullied at school and i just wanted to publish a blog which i found very informative from www.bullying.co.uk & www.standupfoundation-uk.org in which they explain the process of getting over it and moving on with your life.
Leaving the scars behind
Overcoming bullying can be one of the hardest things to do. It has affected their adulthood in one way or another. They may have trust issues, low self-esteem and self-worth. The effects of bullying can determine someone’s behaviour and actions. For those who have experienced bullying, it may be difficult to do the everyday things we take for granted, such as meeting new people, trying out new challenges and more.
Finding the strength
If you are dealing with the aftermath of bullying, you could be feeling drained and low on batteries. Trying to find the strength to understand, process and overcome what you have experienced might feel like the hardest thing to do. Often, finding that strength can be through the support of your family and friends and this can give you the helping hand you need to understand what you have endured. It is important to give yourself as much times as you need, don’t set yourself unrealistic limits as you need to go through this process in a manageable way.
It’s not me it’s you
The first step of overcoming bullying is understanding the roles of the people involved in the bullying. If you can try to visualise the experience but look at the situation from an outsider’s perspective, this can help you see how the person who was bullying you was perhaps motivated by their own reasons and actually you never were to blame or responsible for what you had to go through. Bullies often have very low self-esteem and low self-worth and will bully others to try and compensate for their own negative emotions. This does not excuse their behaviour but goes a long way to explain why they act in this way. What happened to you, was the consequence of the action and choice of the bully and it certainly was them and not you.
However if you want to speak to a professional you could try www.kidscape.org.uk or www.samaritans.org
Thanks to Bullying UK and The Ben Cohan Foundation for the article