Today would, perhaps, be a good day to post something election related. However, I must prevent myself from going into a tyrannical rant about people voting based on media coverage rather than policies. As popularity contests go I fear that this general election has shown that ‘we’ don’t even know what we want as a nation! Let me be thankful that we are not now in an inflation making, economy busting and small business destroying £10 living wage era! Oh my….. I’m on my high horse already.
So to change the topic completely I thought I might just sit here quietly and bite my lip!
However, thinking spiritually and for our own sanity here are some tips to get us through these cray times.
1. Picture your life a year from today. You can overcome your problems and your life can go back to normal, but most of the time it won’t happen overnight. It helps to have a long-term perspective to get detached from the overwhelming stress of today. When I get swamped with problems and piles of unanswered emails, I’d often get very discouraged. I find that daydreaming about my future is a good way o put the current moment into perspective.
2. Create a peaceful space for yourself. Your environment is important. The last thing you want when you are under stress is to sit at a sad-looking desk with piles of paper and clutter. Although I am often under a lot of pressure, I am lucky enough to work from home most of the time. I am able to create my own clutter-free room. Sometimes taking 10 or 15 minutes to prepare my work space and environment is the best way to start the work day. When you are surrounded by chaos, you add unnecessary stress to your life. If you create a peaceful space around you, you’ll be able to breathe deeply and relax more easily.
3. Remove yourself from negative, draining conversations. Okay, so I appreciate it’s impossible to isolate yourself from “negative people” or “stressed” people. We all have hard days and get a little negative every now and then. When you’re having a tough week, it might be tempting to fall into that self-pitying place. I find the best way of maintaining a positive mind-set is by avoiding negative, emotionally draining conversations. I am not suggesting you hang up the phone when the ‘boss’ but that you plan and prepare for those you make yourself. If necessary where an agreement seems a long way off, suggest a break to re-evaluate. You can start again when prepared. I try not to let negativity suck up all my energy. Following a depressive conversation, your day will go further into the hole, so afterwards take a break and think of tropical islands (or your own place of choice). Return refreshed and ready to win!
4. Celebrate your small wins. When you are in the middle of a storm, it may be a while till you have a big win. But you can celebrate the small things and lift up your spirit. It may be a task accomplished, a good report, that you took the high road when somebody criticized you or the nirvana of inbox zero!
5. Selfishly set your limits. Because you are ultimately responsible for your own well-being. Nobody will care about you the way you do. When I was in hotels and working over sixty hours a week, I realised that, no matter how many hours I put in, or how efficient I was, I was not always going to be able to meet my deadlines. I decided to go ‘cap in hand’ and let my boss know. He knew I wasn’t slacking, that I had delegated everything I could and had nearly made it so he accepted my situation and made the necessary arrangements to fix it; even rolling up his own sleeves and asking me, “What can I do to help!”
Errrrrrr. That big pile of washing up……………..?
I knew I had the boss on my side when he simply said, “Fine leave that with me!” I had been joking but it needed done and the whole team got satisfaction and a hint of admiration that he did. For me it was one less thing to worry about!